Hello Lioness Pack,
I want to talk about knowing your worth. It is easy to slip into other people's perceptions of you and take that on as your own. It is easy to make yourself feel like you are only worth so much or just be content with where you are in life.
I didn't know my worth because I was in an 8-year relationship that ended in 2015. Being that we spent our high school and college days together, my identity was our relationship. His interests were my interests. We saw each other almost every single day in high school and every weekend in college. His friends were my friends and vice versa. Don't get me wrong, at the time I loved it, but I also didn't know any other way of being in a relationship.
When we broke off in 2015 I decided to move to NY on my own. It was my chance to build my own identity, but honestly, I didn't have the ability at the time or the resources to. I wasn't ready and that's okay.
Fast forward to the present moment. I have been consistently been working on my healing journey. I feel it within my bones that each little step is bringing me closer to where I would love to be. With each step of healing, I am reminded that I don't need to be this completely healed person to have the things I deserve.
Now bring that to my current financial situation. I have been at the same time working on my financial debt. I took on a weekend job at Trader Joe's to supplement my income. I was starting to get stressed from lack of sleep and connection with my friends, but I was happy to work there and make more money. I was also killing it at my full-time job. My responsibilities were growing, I was coming up with ideas to make certain processes better, and I was just damn good at my job.
My one-year review came up and my review reflected all the hard work I have been putting into my company the past year. I knew it was my time. I took a deep breath and I wrote an email to my manager asking to discuss a raise based on my performance this past year. To my surprise, I was taken into a meeting with the CEO of the company the next hour. I was prepared with my bullet points and a number in mind. Thankfully my CEO saw my hard work as well and offered me. a raise higher than what they would normally give. 8K! I was shocked, but I also knew my number, knew my worth, knew what my work reflected. I outlined that my position deserved a title change to which he agreed. I also reiterated that I took a part-time job on the weekends to supplement my income and wanted a salary that would reflect that pay so that I may keep my focus on this job.
That was yesterday.
This morning, he agreed!
I could not be happier that I took the chance. I knew my worth and I knew what my time and work reflected. I stood my ground and it feels incredible.
I encourage you to do the same! Where do you need to stick to your value and make a better decision based on your worth? If you need encouragement or brainstorming, I am here for you! Send me a message and let's chat!